January ends today and another month unfolds tomorrow.
Most of you had a “dry-run” of your top (three) goals and…
…how are they doing?
Are you getting there, or getting farther?
Going Back and Moving Forward
To complete your goal-setting this month, here are concise and practical ways (I’ll keep them really short) to improve yourself in three aspects (relationships, career, and reflection):
- Not all “more” is better.
Part of growing up is getting old and realizing that you have to value what you have… no matter how big or small, much or less, and many or few.
You don’t need to keep a lot of friends with you. While yes, you need to be kind and friendly to everyone, but you should know the true people to treasure.
These days, most people treat their friends as family, and their family as friends. Sadly, we have become comfortable depending on other people more than the ones in our own homes.
I think it would be better to establish a good relationship with your family FIRST, then to be followed by your friends.
Another trend today is being independent and career-driven. Nothing wrong with that. Personally, I take my career seriously.
*Career does not necessarily mean employment, but it is your perseverance to make something good and helpful out of your situation.
Success in your career is not about how much you get from your paycheck each month, or how many sales deals have you closed.
Instead, it is more about how your work and efforts helped people you may not even know. It is how you treat your work (attitude) and not necessarily what you get in return
All of these boil down to self-improvement. If you don’t start with lots of heart and regular self check, you can never expect the best results. But what exactly do we need to improve on self?
Now, let’s get going.
- Treat each day as New Year’s Day…
…or at least like the last day of your life.
Always show and appreciate your loved ones.
Colossians 3:23 says do everything as if we work for the Lord and not for people. Work like it’s your last chance.
Seek and assess yourself daily. Reflect. Each day brings a fresh perspective that may not show up tomorrow.
- Do not expect immediate results tomorrow.
Don’t expect to deepen your relationships with your loved ones in an instant.
Don’t expect for a career promotion in 6 months. You have to work hard for it.
Don’t expect yourself to change quickly. Take the hard and rough process as a part of improving yourself.
- Do only three most important tasks each day that will help you achieve your yearly goal.
Here are the three most important people in your life:
- Family. Communicate regularly and spend time with them. Learn to listen.
- Friends. Establish accountability and be ready to help them in different ways.
- Neighbors/ community. Be a friend to others who need you. You might be the friend they are longing for.
Focus on doing three most important things that can unleash your strength, increase your capacity to earn, and establish networks.
Reflect whenever and wherever you have an opportunity.
Pray in different places and in different ways. Submit your requests to God and read His Word.
- Celebrate small, but significant achievements that help you reach your main goals.
Spend QUALITY time with your family. There are many ways to do it, but it does not need to be expensive.
Affirm yourself and learn to appreciate progress (where you were before and now).
Express your gratitude by doing the things you have been wanting to do (as long as they help and please God’s eyes). Don’t let things and people hold back your good deeds.
- Forgive yourself if you “failed” a certain day or skipped a routine.
Forgive other people and free yourself.
Forgive yourself (for your mistakes) and your boss or co-worker.
Forgive yourself and deal with your issues objectively.
- Realize that not all things will happen the way you expect them to be.
See other people with a different lens. In short, extend your understanding, patience, and grace towards them.
Make room for mistakes. Have a plan B, C, D and E. Learn to troubleshoot.
Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zones. Learn to live by faith in God.
- Seek the Lord above all else and His plan for you.
Is God pleased with how you treat your family, friends?
How about the way you work?
Do you have ways to nurture yourself?
In and Within
We can be in two places today: keeping track of our goals or losing the motivation to continue.
In any situation, it doesn’t matter if you have imitated the world’s demand. They don’t care about your progress. They care about their own.
Before we end 20-Eight In, I want to leave a simple reminder:
It’s not what’s IN the world that matters, but what or who’s WITHIN you.
Who or what controls your heart, soul, mind, and strength will eventually determine who you are, what you do, and what you will become.
Are you in, or within?
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect (Romans 12:2 ESV).”